by Tammy Taylor
I remember speaking those words to my husband-to-be on our wedding day, and I remember him saying those same words back to me. We weren’t merely repeating the words as the preacher prompted us, we both truly meant those vows to each other & to God. Those who know us say that we’re like newlyweds even though we’ve been married for over 14 years & it’s true, his brown eyes still make my heart flutter. But although It’s fun to be the cute couple at the church picnic or a quaint B&B that likes to hold hands and enjoys being together, it’s that ‘For Better or For Worse, In Sickness and In Health’ part that defines a true soulmate. We’ve had our share of life’s hardships over the years of course but we’ve gotten through each one of them together, side-by-side. But some of those trials have been harder than others – one striking example was dealt to us this year, one of our most stressful challenges. I was diagnosed with breast cancer – those horrible words no woman wants to hear. But the experience has exposed many blessings, including real action to prove those sacred words ‘For Better Or For Worse’
How blessed I am to have him in my life! RancherMan was beside me at every diagnostic appointment, procedure & surgery as well as each & every follow-up visit with the many specialists afterward. He told me one of his jobs was to hold my hand, and hold my hand he did! You see, I’m just a *little* needle-shy but his hand was firmly grasping mine at each of those many episodes this year, calming and comforting me as only he can.
When the main surgery was over & the long recuperation began, that’s when he really began to shine. He was solely responsible for running the ranch by himself while I was out of commission, what a huge task and yet never once a complaint from him. And he was the most amazing, tender, unselfish caregiver I could have ever imagined. He made sure I was comfortable, he made sure my prescriptions were filled and that I took them on time. He made sure I ate right and slept as comfortably as I could. He kept detailed records during my recovery for follow-up visits and he handled each & every insurance issue one-by-one as they came in. He told me I had enough to worry with, I shouldn’t be worrying with insurance. (smile) I never had to ask for anything large or small, my needs were all met before I could ever ask!
If there’s a silver lining to all of this (and there IS) it’s that this terrible year has drawn us even closer. I have so much admiration for his strength and love, and I appreciate him in ways I could have never imagined had I not gone through this. His eyes still sparkle when he looks at me and with it’s with sincere love & devotion in his voice when he tells me it’s all been worth it because I’m still here with him.
Thankfully, we’ve gotten one of the baddest of the bad ‘Or Worse’ times out of our way and we’re looking forward to many more ‘For Better’ days ahead… TOGETHER!
October is National Breast Cancer Awareness month. I used to shrug off all the ‘pink’ that shows up this time of year with all the breast cancer fundraisers, etc. But it’s personal now. Ladies, do those self exams, get your mammograms, protect your life because yes, even without a family history of breast cancer it CAN happen to you!